Saturday, April 30, 2011

Wow...I really need to study my lab values.

OMG! My neighbors' kids are nice enough, but they're all out playing and hollering and screaming and giving me a bastard of a headache! The ridiculous head games we play with ourselves.

The Ridiculous Head Games We Play With Ourselves

I've heard that this tends to be a problem among creative and sensitive people. I at least have suffered with this all my life. It may have been part and parcel of growing up in a family where nothing we did was ever good enough. From my current vantage point I realize that my parents probably thought that nothing they did was ever good enough either. Nonetheless, it doesn't make it any easier. One day I'll probably go into therapy again and work on it some more.
I feel guilty when I'm doing something I want to rather than something I have to. I'm almost done with nursing school. I'll be done in just one more week. I only worked at my regular job twice this month: once on the first Saturday of the month, and will work once more tonight. My husband has been very understanding and encouraging, but I still feel guilty as hell for not drawing a paycheck--and I feel like I've been beaten with a stick. I've been working even though I haven't been working for pay, and it's been as hard or harder than my usual job. 
I want to work on my story a little but I hold myself back. I feel like I should be doing housework, but I really don't want to. I feel like I should be studying for my nursing boards, but I spent an entire day in class yesterday doing that. I know my weak areas and will probably do a little studying before I go to work. 
I hate the way I hold myself back. When I never do anything I want I tend to start feeling depressed and resentful, which isn't doing me or my family any favors. I am truly my own worst enemy and a harsher critic than either of my parents ever were--and they were both very tough bosses. My siblings and I don't see them very often, generally only on holidays. Ours was not a very nurturing upbringing. Luckily we've tended to be very supportive of each other.
My sister isn't the sort to show overt emotion, which I know has been hard for her kids in some ways. She tends to express her love through actions rather than words. I'm more demonstrative than she is with my emotions, although I'm not particularly touchy-feely either. I'll hug those close to me but I don't tend to kiss anyone except my husband, even in a non-passionate way. 
My brother is the most demonstrative of all of us when it comes to affection. He's very expressive, a somewhat flamboyant openly gay guy. I don't think my kids, especially my son, would have turned out as well as they did without their uncle's love and support. There were times when they were growing up that my emotional state did not allow me to be there for them the way they needed and deserved. But I was always open with them about what was going on, and I think that helped.
I am going to write a little and then I'll open this study program that my parents payed $350 for. I have to give them credit. Maybe in their twilight years they're trying to show their kids support in their own way.

Sometimes, we don’t like things because they remind us of ourselves, or because they make us insecure. --Julien Smith

RT @tweetsmarter Priceless Writing Lessons Learned from Scathing 1-Star Reviews on Amazon

Ladies you need to know! Women who used feminine deodorant sprays had a 90% INCREASED RISK OF OVARIAN CANCER. thanks @mirelamonte Good thoughts for people of all ages. The Princesses of York looking like a couple banshees. Thanx @hitdanback and now a special Royal surprise, thanks to @hitdanback !

Thursday, April 28, 2011's dumb double standard is a dumb-ass of the Black Eyed Peas has expressed the archaic attitude that he and a date would not be compatible if said date has condoms in her house. Because keeping condoms in your house, if you are a woman, makes your house a whore house, and you a whore. is a damn idiot. Between my first and second marriage, I always kept a couple of condoms in my purse, just in case. Just in case never actually ended up happening because I don't tend to be the kind of person to have impromptu sex with someone I don't know well. But I hate the message that this idiot is sending to young people. Time for to get his head out of the 1800's. Orly Taitz, you stupid bitch.

Tuesday, April 26, 2011 He wants a service dog? Hell to the no!

Sunday, April 24, 2011 Easy-E should rise & smite! Larry Fortensky Sickening attack. If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship, encourage them to go to this site.

Saturday, April 23, 2011

It's nice to have a couple of days off and hard to make myself get off my ass and do anything with them!

Thursday, April 21, 2011 What every high school student should know. This may be the most fun you'll have all day!

Tuesday, April 19, 2011 99 relationship red flags Douchebag League

Monday, April 18, 2011

Middle Aged Weight Obsession

There is an article on the oft annoying but sometimes useful diet blog about the weight obsessions of middle aged women. Here are my thoughts.
I'm not sure why anyone would find this surprising. I came of age in the mid 1970's. Even then there was pressure to be thin, which was not how I was built. The instant I developed hips, I also developed bulimia. I have gone through years of self hate before deciding that if someone doesn't looking at my stocky self, they can look somewhere else. I have too many other things going on to worry about being obsessively vain about my looks.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

As for the ass clown who called and interrupted my nap (a rare thing in my current life) I wish you crotch rot, bothering people on Sunday. Kinda makes you wish for the Apocalypse.

The Beauty Privilege Has Its Drawbacks

Read here about why the beauty privilege isn't all privilege.

And then there's something that I can't figure out.

I'm not beautiful and never have been, but all of my life I've had guys (even guys with attractive girlfriends) hit on me and women get jealous of me and accuse me of being stuck up. I've never understood that because I'm very humble and shy by nature. I think that guys tend to be drawn to me because I'm sisterly and non-threatening. My husband says that there is something "special" about me and people are drawn to that. My brother says I'm "charismatic." At any rate it is confusing because I'm not pretty. I'm heavy and have a plain face. So this reaction she's getting may not be entirely about looks. I don't know. People are strange.

Saturday, April 16, 2011

No, Stacy London, I don't love my stilettos. Actually, I don't own any stilettos. I'm one of those crazy women who likes comfortable feet.

School Bans Packed Lunches and Snacks via @dietblog This is freaking outrageous! Talk about a Nanny State.

I refuse to answer calls from numbers I don't recognize today. This is my first day off in two weeks and I'm avoiding the Noids!

The Nerves Can Go But the Romance Should Stay

Ladies, according to the guys at GuySpeak, when a fellow acts flustered around you, it's a sign that he's into you. They go on to discuss how this disappears the longer you're together. I had a few thoughts to share.

Almost six years into our marriage (nine years into our relationship) my husband (second) still brings me flowers and says the most lovely things that I feel don't describe me at all. However, what has disappeared is the nervousness. He says these lovely things without blushing or stuttering. Having been married previously (to my grown childrens' father) I think that the relationships that keep the romance are the ones that are most likely to survive. Naturally the insecurity about making oneself vulnerable will disappear--and it should. But the romance never should or the relationship is doomed to becoming at the very least dull and at worst to destruction. The romance was muchly gone from my first marriage after our first child was born (two years in) was gone by the seventh year and third child, and had turned to animosity by the twelfth year. Both parties have to work at keeping it going--and it shouldn't feel like work!

Friday, April 15, 2011

The facility where I'm doing my LPN clinicals is wonderful. I love the staff and the residents. The food not so much. My stomach feels vile.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Oh good! I get to see this "Weather Girl" movie on LMN that I had to miss earlier today to go to clinicals! It looked pretty entertaining.

Wednesday, April 13, 2011 LOL @faycinacroud blog post about smelly revenge!

One of my cats is making me consider the need for a cat-tle prod. He is seriously misbehaving.

If you were on Facebook while reading my last Tweet, realize that I Ping everything. And 10 years ago I couldn't have imagined saying that!

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Helping my cousin @roselemort proof her galleys for what will hopefully be the last round before her book goes to press!

RT @gottalaff MSNBC: GOPers "prebut" president's speech. That would make them prebut-heads. Playing dress up doesn't turn boys gay.

Playing Dress Up Doesn't Turn Boys Gay

The Dumb Blog mentioned a controversy regarding a video where a woman paints her little boy's nails. Because there are no real problems in this world for us to worry about, this is very, very controversial. 

When my brother was little he liked playing dress up in our grandma's old clothes with me. He is gay. But when my male cousin was little he liked having my aunt put his sister's barrettes in his hair. He is a big burly macho fireman who is heterosexual. Nail polish and "girly" things don't turn a boy gay. By the way, I love my brother and he is wonderful just the way he is. He's a social worker and he's helped a lot of kids. He helped me with my own kids when I was going through a really rough period in my life. He was the #1 male figure in my son's life. My son happens to be heterosexual. Maybe if people stopped worrying so much about people being gay (they're born that way) and stopped thinking gay was abnormal, nobody would care when little boys wanted to play with dolls or have fun playing dress-up or putting on nail polish.

Ah TV world where high school students are all slim, attractive, acne free, and 25 years old. What will your next tweet be? Funny!

Tuesday, April 12, 2011 Really dumb news.

Really Dumb News

Stop the presses! This is much more important than the war in the Middle East, the earthquake in Japan, or any of that trivia. The Dumb Blog reports that:
1) Rihanna wants to spank Britney Spears
2) Some pervert convinced a bunch of vulnerable women that having sex with him was a good idea because orgasms lead to weight loss. Of course in his case having sex with him probably led to bulima, hence pounds lost from copious vomiting.
3) There is now bacon scented perfume. I'm gonna hurry out and buy me a gallon of this stuff!

Here is my further wisdom on these world-changing issues.

Yep, this thought of Rihanna's is the real deal, just like the Britney Spears/Madonna kiss was not calculated to sell albums/concert tickets. It's soooo hawt. (Rolls eyes.)
I'd say that if having an orgasm burns calories one would be better off masturbating than having sex with this skeevy pervert. Masturbation would be more likely to lead to orgasm and far, far less likely to result in social disease.
Why buy a cologne that smells like bacon? Simply eat bacon, then touch other parts of your body! It's a lot cheaper.

Monday, April 11, 2011 They murdered an innocent person. Let them rot

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Guess I'd best get up and wash my skeevy body and get ready to work at 6 AM. Yuck! I'm not by nature a morning person so these hours suck.

Started refining my story. Its been way too long since I worked on it. Decided I don't want it to be as explicit as I originally thought.

Saturday, April 9, 2011 Tyler Perry talks about being molested as child Famous men who were abused.

I like working in a medical setting but the way I'm treated by my employers can be depressing. We get good benefits/hours but little respect Is your job making you depressed?

Yet another series on "E" that I won't be watching. This one features Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom. can I pass that up? :-p

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

RT @twitbreakinnews Hanoi's Reclusive Lake Turtle Forced Out of Its Shell (

Some of my friends are going through hard times and the mean-spiritedness of others has only made them feel worse. Can't we all be nicer?

Monday, April 4, 2011 Great info on food safety

Sunday, April 3, 2011 Please check this out and support Michael.

It may sound crazy, but I'm glad it's cooler today!

RT @chrisvoss It is easier to come up with an excuse to NOT pursue your dream than to put the effort to pursue it